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Nurturing Adoptions - Creating Resilience after Neglect and Trauma
By Deborah D. Gray
"Nurturing Adoptions is a guide for social workers and psychologists who provide therapy for adopted children and teens suffering from neglect, trauma, or abuse. Dr. Gray delves into the myriad ways that children can be affected by adverse circumstances - biological, psychological, behavioral, and even moral. She teaches ways to find the child's point of view, and key points of stress, and to help re-frame their awareness and behavior into a more positive and adaptive structure, ultimately leading to more balanced and fruitful lives. This is an excellent resource for anyone interested in attachment and older child adoption. This is a gold mine of information for the adoption world, for parents and professionals. " (Allison Martin)
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The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family
By Karyn B. Purvis, David R. Cross, and Wendy Lyons Sunshine
"This book deserves a wide audience; not only is it beneficial for among parents struggling with attachment or behavior issues, but it will also benefit health care professionals and therapist working with these families. Based on practical experience and research, this book provides detailed and practical techniques parents can use in teaching their children appropriate ways to behave, while responding in a loving manner. It is especially useful for children from preschool to early middle school age with special needs such as sensory integration dysfunction, ADD/ADHD, FAE, mild autism, and mood disorders and/or fostered or adopted children (adopted in the US or internationally) who have residual institutional impacts from orphanages, abusive, traumatic or deprived backgrounds, attachment difficulties, or other seemingly intractable issues. While on bad days it may seem impossible, this book not only holds out hope, it provides realistic ways to achieve the closeness with your child you long for." (Allison Martin)
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Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents
By Deborah D. Gray
"A comprehensive and knowledgeable overview of the causes, diagnosis and treatment of attachment issues of adopted children. Gray is an experienced family therapist and clinical social worker who specializes in grief, trauma and attachment. Her unique blend of empathy and practical advice makes this an excellent resource for anyone who has questions about bonding and attachment." (Allison Martin)
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1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12
by Thomas W. Phelan
"1-2-3 Magic is a truly life changing child discipline method that has helped many parents over the years. For the right situation it really is akin to magic, as Dr. Phelan's methods work where many other parenting approaches are quite ineffective. The techniques described in 123 Magic work even with children who have only a emerging understanding of cause and effect, thus they are helpful for children who have ADD/ADHD, high functioning autism, sensory integration dysfunction, mental retardation, emotional delays, or other special needs." (Allison Martin)
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Adoption in the United States: A Reference for Families, Professionals, and Students
By Martha J. Henry and Daniel Pollack
"This book stands out among other adoption guides in that it is written for professionals and students and is backed by research with numerous citations and references. Overall, the focus is on providing children with good homes, through ethical adoption and parent preparation. The presentations of medical, health and attachment issues of adoption and domestic adoption of older children through the US state social agency system are recommended for parents and professionals." (Allison Martin)
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The Essential Link: Attachment Information for Adoptive Parents
B y Susan M. Ward

A helpful booklet providing an overview of attachment for adoptive parents. Using quotes from expert authors and her own experiences, Susan Ward introduces complex attachment topics in a simplified, supportive manner.
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Becoming a Family: Promoting Healthy Attachments with Your Adopted Child (Hardcover)
by Lark Eshleman

From the publisher: This book will help parents identify severe problems before the adoption, significantly reduce the risk of future difficulty, improve the damage already done to the child's otherwise normal, healthy development, and dramatically help enfold the child into a family ready to give love, security, and a new life.
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Parenting Your Older Adopted Child
By Brenda McCreight
"If you are considering adopting an older child, then Parenting Your Adopted Older Child provides a nice overview of issues that older child adoption may bring to your family. Author Brenda McCreight has a wealth of experience to bring to this topic and she shares her knowledge and practical solutions in an organized and enthusiastic manner.." (Allison Martin)
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Toddler Adoption
By Mary Hopkins-Best
"For first time parents, the book "Toddler Adoption" provides a thorough overview of the childhood stage of one to three year old children and the challenges and joys of the adoption of a toddler." (Allison Martin)
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Connecting With Kids Through Stories: Using Narratives To Facilitate Attachment In Adopted Children
by Denise Lacher, Todd Nichols, Joanne May
"This variation on Narrative Therapy explains how to create stories to help explain birth family and pre-placement situations to children in a third-person style, using animals in place of main characters. Children may start out seeing it as just a stony and it may take some time to realize it is really their own story or they may recognize themselves right away. Parents can create the story themselves, or involve the child by asking what animal he and other members of the family might be, and use those animals as central characters in the story. Over time, the story can evolve to include more details and additional ideas from the child." (R.D.)
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Our Own - Adopting and Parenting the Older Child
By Trish Maskew
"It should be required reading for anyone who is considering adopting an older child." (Susan Hall)
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Parenting the Hurt Child : Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow
by Gregory Keck, Regina M. Kupecky
"Written for domestic special needs adoption, much of the information applies to adopting older children internationally, including grief, loss and attachment issues. Includes an excellent description of Reactive Attachment Disorder and behaviors (mild and extreme) that relate to each facet of RAD." (Adoption Advocates International)
"Keck is a well-known attachment therapist.  His book (the newest edition) also has a chapter on international adoption." (Jennifer S.)
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Broken Spirits Lost Souls: Loving Children With Attachment and Bonding Difficulties
by Jane E. Ryan
"Personal stories of children with RAD with practical advice for coping on a daily basis." (R.D.)
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Real Parents Real Children
by Holly Van Gulden
"Designed to help parents and professionals better understand why children of each age think and feel the way they do about being adopted. Some of the specific issues addressed include helping adopted children who struggle with identity, grief for birth parents, and building healthy bonds and attachment with the adoptive family." (Adoption Advocates International)
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Can This Child Be Saved? Solutions For Adoptive and Foster Families
by Foster W. Cline and Cathy Helding
"Examines causes behind behaviors, suggests reasons why conventional strategies may fail, and gives some parenting techniques and therapeutic approaches that can succeed with disturbed children." (R.D.)
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Help for the Hopeless Child: A Guide for Families (With Special Discussion for Assessing and Treating the Post-Institutionalized Child)
by Ronald S. Federici
"Must-have handbook for families adopting from Eastern Europe but still helpful and insightful for any adoptive parent." (Adoption Advocates International)
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When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD
by Nancy L. Thomas
"Nancy Thomas has parented severely emotionally disturbed children and shares tools for parenting with love those children who don't know how to live in a family." (Adoption Advocates International)
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Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children
by Daniel A. Hughes
"Another therapist's approach to attachment issues." (Adoption Advocates International)
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Creating Ceremonies Creating Ceremonies : Innovative Ways to Meet Adoption Challenges
by Cheryl A. Lieberman and Rhea K. Bufferd

"A guide to producing and enacting family scripts which mark key transitions in adoption for school age children. These ceremonies are a way to acknowledge the loss of transitions, even in happy situations, and provide a hopeful context to acknowledge the changing circumstances." (Allison Martin)
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Becoming Attached, First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love
By Robert Karen
"For those parents who anticipate potential problems, or those who are encountering problems now, I recommend it highly!" (Ann Lamar)
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Adopting the Older Child
by Claudia L. Jewett
"A half-dozen composite portraits of children journeying through the American foster-care system with valuable information about the tough issues faced by those children. Some of these issues may also be seen in international adoption." (Adoption Advocates International)
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Someone Hurt Me
By Susan Cavaciuti
"This isn't really an adoption book but it might be helpful for anyone working with tramatized children. Colorful and emotive pictures provide the background for basic text intended to help abused children accept their feelings of sorrow, anger and distrust and move toward feelings of self acceptance and faith."
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